Avoid Damsel Wedding Distress

“Delegating is difficult… if you give your bridesmaids too much to do, you seem controlling. If you take care of everything yourself, everyone will wonder if there’s even a wedding happening.”

Whether you’ve known each other since before you were born and spent much of your childhood living ‘la vida loca’. You’ve built impressive clubhouses, going to bed much later on Pj Party night, or you’ve met someplace throughout another chapter of your life and became as inseparable as Lucy, Laverne and Thelma- these are the friendships and gal pals you’ll one day employ to be your personal ‘Wedding Girl Friday’s’, from the YES, to the I-Do’s.

The payoff? Gust busting laughter, random unstoppable tears, and a special night of euphoric fun.

Now that you’ve formed your Bridesmaids lineup, its time to select the uniform and strategize your play… If I’ve learned anything throughout my professional life when laying down the instruction manual, it’s to always start on a positive note. One of the best ways to get this party started is with a Friday night pizza order – perhaps even a bottle of champagne to celebrate this incredible moment, ringing in the many more to follow. Share those millions of ideas with your sisterhood and you’ll soon see you wont even have had to toss around that fancy “D” word that most often begins the morphing process from Bride to ‘Zilla.

Delegating is difficult… if you give your bridesmaids too much to do, you seem controlling. If you take care of everything yourself, everyone will wonder if there’s even a wedding happening.

The role your bridesmaids have is pivotal. It’s to ensure your wedding be as incredible realized, as it has been since the day you married Timmy by the swings at the age of four, and they will do just that. Your job as the Bride is to set a positive light and happy tone. When you set the stage with the perfect balance of a little bit of a to-do list, and a little bit of carte blanche, you just might get the best Bridal party you could ever ask for.

Your ladies-in-waiting will be with you every step of the way to shed a tear at the perfect gown find, throw you the best bachelorette party ever seen, and they’ll even lock the doors and windows at the Chapel to keep you from running . Listening to how Benjamin didn’t call you the night before and you wonder if he’s changed his mind about marrying you and is already on a plane to Australia.

They’ll pack the Mary Poppins suitcase because well, you never know what unexpected things you’ll need and they’ll be the life of the party on the wedding day. They’ll even have Mr. and Mrs. Gilbert on the dance floor for the first time in years.

Brides, as perfect a shade of ice blue you may want the gowns to match the florals, life has a way to showing us each and every day that when you let go of expectation to welcome its intrinsic movement is when we are very pleasantly surprised… Certainly you didn’t expect that night to cap with a wedding proposal did you? You let the evening unfold as it did- you basked in the wonder of it all, and look at where it brought you.

Avoid Damsel distress. Give your Bridesmaids a cinema view of your vision and plan… also let them help the best way they know how. They’re your team, your gals, your sisters… they wont let you down!

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